Kim Wong-Shing

The year is 2007. Every day, I spend hours chatting with several of my closest friends until late into the night. We vent, joke, dream about the future, and process the present. When I’m sick, they wish me well. When I’m down, they make me laugh.
Fast forward 13 years. The year is 2020. The only person I talk to everyday is my girlfriend. My friendships are mostly hanging on by a thread, and I meet up with them to chat and play catch up… oh, anywhere from once a week to once every few years.
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Coming out is hard. Even coming out to yourself is hard, which is part of why so many people don’t end up coming into their queerness until they’re fully grown adults. Hi, it’s me, I’m so many people.
I didn’t come out until I was 26 years old. In some ways I feel that I lucked out: I avoided lots of scary experiences, sycg as coming out to my parents at a time when I was dependent on them, or having to be the Gay One at school.
But I also missed out on what it might’ve been like to be young,...

Healthy hair is beautiful hair. And for Black women, wash day is often a sacred act of self-care since our kinks, coils, and curls require a little more TLC. In our new series Wash Day Diaries, we’re asking influential women to break down exactly what goes into their routines, so you can learn their tips, tricks, and products that work for your texture and style.
Phoebe Robinson is one incredibly busy woman. After wrapping up her hit podcast and HBO show 2 Dope Queens in 2019, the comedian ha...

Not all besties are good for you — just like relationships, friendships can be unhealthy, too. One common characteristic of a toxic friendship is codependency. Here's everything you need to know about what codependent friendships are, how to identify them, and how to heal.
While close friendships are important, codependent friendships are so close that all boundaries have completely melted away. Boundaries define our personal limits, and they help us separate our own needs and feelings from o...

Blue skies above rippling sand dunes in Abu Dhabi. A rainbow over a secluded cabin by the sea in the UK. A hillside covered in blindingly bright white and blue domes in Santorini.
Images like this pop up regularly on my Instagram feed, posted by the countless travelers who have made a full-time job out of going to picturesque destinations. My reaction...

Jennelle Eliana spends her days driving a baby-blue 1995 GMC Vandura Explorer around California with her pet snake, Alfredo. The 21-year-old first popped up on YouTube with a tour of her van on June 26. After three weeks and one more video, she had gained a following of 1.3 million subscribers—an unheard-of number for a new YouTuber. A quick search of Eliana’s name yields many conspiracy theories about her success: She bought her followers, or she’s an industry “plant” who secretly works for ...

Decades worth of research has found that how we connected emotionally with our caregivers, in the first 5 years of life, informs how we relate to romantic partners and close friends in adulthood.
And just like every romantic partner comes with their own annoying habits and weird nicknames, each person also comes with their own attachment style.
While the most accurate and in-depth method of learn...

We all know the stereotype: lesbians move in together really quickly. Too quickly, some might say! If you ask me, it’s because women and non-binary people are so fucking amazing that it’s hard not to become totally engrossed in them and forget that you also have to eat breakfast and go to work.

Moving in together can be a wonderful next step in your relationship, if taking “steps” in “relationships” is your thing. Cohabitation brings you closer together. It allows you to hang out with your...

I was in the middle of reading the trendiest lesbian book of 2020, “In The Dream House” by Carmen Maria Machado, when I came across an *alleged* fact about Eleanor Roosevelt that they definitely did not teach in my U.S. history class. Namely, that she had a long-lasting lesbian affair. Did you know that? I did not.
Machado’s passage is about how archives are never neutral; power and politics determine which stories are kept, and which are omitted or even destroyed. “Sometimes the proof is nev...

For better or worse, Netflix and other streaming services play a major role in modern relationships, from the ~talking~ stage all the way to marriage. At first, they’re the pretext for getting cozy together on a couch or bed (“Netflix and chill”). Months or years later, they become a bonding experience. Every couple has their “shows” — the ones you queue up together after long days of work and don’t dare watch without each other.
If you get really lucky, both people enjoy the same types of mo...

Season four of “90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days” features the series’ first-ever same-sex couple.

There’s finally a lesbian relationship on “90 Day Fiancé.” Let me say that one more time: THERE’S FINALLY A LESBIAN RELATIONSHIP ON “90 DAY FIANCÉ.”

In case you haven’t seen the best reality show on TLC, allow me to break it down for you. “90 Day Fiancé” follows U.S. citizens as they venture to move their long-distance romantic partners from another country to the U.S. on a K-1 visa, which requ...

CBD (cannabidiol) is the new “it” ingredient, and it doesn’t appear to be going anywhere anytime soon. CBD, a natural chemical compound in marijuana, doesn’t cause a high — and among its many exciting capabilities is the potential to alleviate pain, anxiety and discomfort in cats and dogs.
But CBD is still such a new product that it’s a bit of a Wild West situation on the pet medicine front right now. Before you give CBD to your beloved pet, you should know a few things, in...

Up to 15% of the U.S. population may identify as heteroflexible, according to a 2020 study. That's more than the number of gay, lesbian, and bisexual people combined. But to many people, this identity is still a mystery. Here's what it truly means to be heteroflexible and how to figure out whether this label applies to you.
In a nutshell, heteroflexible means "mostly straight." The term refers to people who are mostly attracted to the "opposite" gender but are also open to same-gender experie...

One in six people will experience depression at some point in their life, according to the American Psychiatric Association. That means it's not totally unlikely that two people with depression can end up in a relationship with each other. As rates of depression continue to rise worldwide, so, too, do these double-depression relationships.

Dating with depression is challenging no matter what. "When somebody's depressed, they're feeling really hopeless. When you have two people, it's times two or three," New York City psychotherapist and relationship specialist Lisa Brateman tells mbg. "It's..

Nightlife spaces are crucial for queer communities, and Black queer women and trans/non-binary folks love to party as much as anyone else. But so few places are actually for us. Gay bars are dominated by white gay men, straight bars are a no-man’s-land of men, and lesbian bars are an endangered species. Dedicated venues for Black queer women and trans/non-binary people to practice ~the art of seeing and being seen~...